I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how men’s egos are wired directly to their dicks—or, in less cases, to their pain-bodies (the accumulation of emotional pain that resides inside of us). For women it’s the opposite. Most vaginas are hooked up to pain-bodies, while less are hooked up to egos. Women with ego-vagina connections are the types that use sex to manipulate and punish. Although, now that I think about it, that sounds more like a pain-body inflicting pain. Maybe egoic vaginas are the ones that, like men, want to f*ck more people to get the ego intoxication of fleeting pleasure and/or admiration of their bodies and skills/prowess? I met a lot of women in my 20s like that. Promiscuous types who treated men like a piece of meat. They always dumped the guy before he dumped them. I don’t need to describe the male equivalent. We all know him well!
If your sex organs are hooked up to your pain-body, instead of “making love,” you may enjoy “making suffering.” In other words, the pain-body uses sex to feed itself. Or it may get turned on by suffering, like by being constantly put down. If your ego were hooked up to your dick/vagina, that would be a big turn off for you. But not to the pain-body—the pain-body loves it!
It’s probably possible for dicks/vaginas to be hooked up to BOTH the ego and the pain-body. Sex for these people would always involve a lot of drama!
Anyway, I’d like to propose a solution: my newly invented Ego Bypass Operation! I realized in the shower just now that an EBO could be easily performed on oneself. All you have to do is ask yourself when you’re feeling randy whether it’s your ego/pain-body that wants sex. Is your ego/pb trying to feed itself through acquiring ego intoxication or more pain or by inflicting suffering on others? An Ego Bypass Operation is simple awareness. So it’s the same as practicing Ego Pain-Body Awareness Meditation: “Am I in my ego right now?” Then take a conscious breath.
